I cannot express the number of times that I was too hard on myself and in turn lead to me giving up on something as ‘simple’ as getting out of bed. Self-doubt is a big issue that everyone faces daily, some don’t recognize it and some do. This post is my way of trying to help you lovelies on recognizing 10 simple ways that you are too hard on yourself.
You Beat Yourself over Small Mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes. It is human nature. However, when one is in the moment it is easy to feel like it is the end of the world and beat yourself up for it. This can be done by physical or emotionally or mentally. Either way, it is not okay and it needs to stop. This will lead to you feeling upset. Think about simple solutions rather than beating yourself up for small mistakes.
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”
You Criticize Yourself after Fixing Your Mistake
The number of times that I have said: “If I had..then…would not have happened.” This is actually quite unhealthy. There is no need to be like ‘what is wrong with you’ ‘ you could have done better’ and so on when there other people who do that for you. Not only are these unnecessary negative vibes but it is going to ruin your day. Again, try to think of a simple solution to the problem so that in future it doesn’t occur again or it occurs less often.
You are more than the mistakes you have made
You Make Yourself Your Last Priority
We all have busy lives and we all have people who need us. Whether it is to have a chat and express whatever is on their mind or simply they need your expertise. There is nothing wrong with giving a helping hand to someone however there needs to be a balance between giving yourself a helping hand and others. It is very easy to feel used or as an object when tying to helping out others so much or so often. Speaking from experience, I personally like to “clock out” or simply do things for myself a while, just until I feel human-like. After I am back to the human feeling, I evaluate how to change things so I don’t feel the same again.
The investment you make in yourself is the greatest investment you will ever make
You Interpret Other Peoples’ Behaviours Towards You as Your Fault
When something goes wrong, do you always see it as your fault? Do you find yourself blaming yourself for the way others treat you? We need to recognize that the way that others treat you is not 100% your fault. Normally it is the other person’s insecurities projected on to you. The way to deal with other people comes down to the situation but I know I personally need to keep calm and understand that the other person may be going through something or they just need to let out their bottled-up emotions.
The way others treat you, is a statement of who they are as human being. It is not a statement about you
You Always go the Extra Mile
Going the extra mile for someone who you love (friends, families, partners and other significant figures), the sense of goodwill or the relief of helping out is amazing. However, if you find yourself constantly going the extra mile you can easily get drained and exhausted (mentally, physically, and emotionally). Again, speaking from personal experience, you can try to “clock out” or take time for yourself. Once you feel better about this then evaluate how you can do things differently. I found the perfect quote if you always go the extra mile:
If you’re the person who is always there for others, know that your heart is rare. Know that you give people hope. Know that you make people feel wanted, that you make people feel wanted, that you make people feel seen; know that you make people feel like they have purpose. However, also remind yourself that you are not invincible. Your heart needs rest, You need rest. Remind yourself that you do not need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, that you may not be able to save everyone, that you may not be able to heal every hurt. Remind yourself that you deserve to take all of the energy you put out into the world and invest it back into yourself from time to time. That you are worthy of the love you keep giving to everyone else. Remind, yourself that you don’t always have to be strong, that you don’t always have to be the fixer. You can be human, you can ask for help. Remind yourself that you can take a break, that you can take a step back to nourish the softness inside of you
I hoped you liked the quotes incorporated in this post and this post as well. I just want you to remember that you are worth it. You are worth the amount of energy you put out into the world. You are worth the amount of time you put out into the world. You are worth the amount of love you put into the world. You are worth the world. You. Are. Worth. It.
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